examining your life
Aristotle said “The unexamined life is not worth living.”
If you do choose to look at your life, consider which lenses you use in the examination; if it’s only through thoughts (which are often laden with judgement), or feelings (which are often underlaid-en with fear), your examination will only serve to perpetuate your story.
What one needs is the skill to look at one’s self dispassionately, through moment-to-moment non-judgemental awareness. Most of us have subjugated the consciousness required to use such a lens.
The mindfulness practices taught in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) courses help us to meet this consciousness anew. It is a beautiful process.