when your child doesn’t want to talk
If your child doesn’t want to share what is going on inside her but is clearly troubled, you can offer your love and presence, and be willing to wait. You can say: ‘It’s ok. You don’t have to speak about it now. I am ready to listen whenever you want to share. I know that you suffer, but don’t want to talk about it today, but you may feel like telling me about it later. I care about you very much; we will sit together and this might help you suffer less. I will always do my best to support you.”
Your child needs you to be there in this way. No one else in the world may be able to offer this kind of presence.
Thich Nhat Hanh ‘Creating True Peace’ (2003) p152-153